How do you meet other butches? How do you like to be won over?

[Storm Brewing]

What smooth moves work for you? What works on you? I'm trying to remember where I put my butch on butch erotica reader, I know it's in a box that hasn't been unpacked yet, but which one? hmmnn...In the meantime, can you jog my dusty memory?

How did you find that love you're mellowing over time with? If you had to find someone for your best butch buddy (you know, the one you can count on at 3am on a holiday, but that you'd never be attracted to) where would you look? The Internet? The local fag bar? The local dyke bar? Women's sports team? Homo Depot?

I'm drowning in femmes, straight guys/girls and more bis then I can count, yet my stubborn compass points only to butches. Sigh...

[Re]

hm, i like confidence but not cocky, i like tough with a soft side, i like a lot of things but every1s different. If i had to find someone for my butch best friend, i would prob tell her to join a sports team, and to keep her eyes open at work or running errands... the more your out and active the more of a chance u'll have to meet someone.

i think the internet is a good way to build a support system, but as for dating, i need to meet someone in person.. i always have a nervous feeling that whoever im talking to could end up being a psycho axe murderer lol

[xxHoMoCoRexx]

I use the internet to find dates, but I have not had much luck so far. There are not a lot of butches online and/or interested in my ads, I guess.

I am so butch-starved that the right person just looking at me/acknowledging my existence constitutes a "smooth move." I do like someone who is straight-foward and laid-back, and likes to lead. Being a snazzy dresser always helps. I don't really have any smooth moves; I just try to be honest and be myself so that the other person knows what she's getting, as well as to show sufficient interest for her to get the hint.

[built_for_comfort]

I can really relate to this.

[Storm Brewing]

Me too. Thanks for being vulnerable enough to own that. For me if somebutch looked me in the eye tonight, I'd probably come undone. I need to get out more.

[built_for_comfort]

I just like it when people talk to me. No smooth moves needed--just be friendly and personable. Be yourself. Show interest in me. Getting me to laugh is always a good thing.

I don't usually approach anyone I find attractive (I'm far too nervous), so I don't have any good tips on how to do that. I just know how I would like others to approach me.

If I get hit on, it's almost always by the girliest (and usually, also very good-looking) femme in the room. I do appreciate the attention, but unfortunately, I'm usually not very attracted to them. I really want another butch.

[Suggie]

For me it is all kinds of wierd things....I love nerds, dorks, geeks....when somebod is awkward somehow I melt. A stutter, a blush, tripping over something. I would KILL for a for a romantic....my gf, man I love her....not even remotly romantic. She is very loving, cuddly, and all that great stuff, strong silent type. But she is also dorky, geeky and nerdy....

Since I am the one always doing the flowers, romantic meals and such, it would just be nice for somebody to do that for me.

I have met a lot of my dates,lovers and exes online to be honest. I am or was really shy so it was he only way.

However,cocky is a HUGE turn off. Egotistical people piss me off and turn me off. Chances are, if you are even an itsty bitsy little bit to confident, I lose ALL interest. I am also a stick in the mud, I lead a clean lifestyle so I am not into smokers,drugg uses, or heavy drinkers/